Stupid question, right? There is no point in talking to a shoe. A shoe doesn’t listen. You can tell your shoe to make dinner 4 zillion times a day and it won’t matter. The shoe won’t make you dinner so you just wasted your breath. This same principle applies when it comes to men. Women think if they tell their man a zillion times to do this, don’t do that, blah blah blah, then eventually, maybe, by the zillion and third time, he will FINALLY do (or not do) what you asked. Uh, didn’t the fact that you had to have the same conversation a zillion times give you the clue that you are talking to a shoe?
Women love to talk, discuss, have conversations, express themselves etc. The problem is that women also think they are being heard, that their conversation, expressing themselves, or discussion actually amounts to something. They expect it to achieve some favorable result. That might be true in some cases, unless of course, you are talking to a man that is the equivalent of talking to a SHOE.
There has to come a time when women realize that TALKING is not ENOUGH. When all the man hears is “wonk wonk wonk” like Charlie Browns’ teacher, it’s time shut your piehole and show him you mean business. Talk is cheap in some cases, and you are worth more than the results you are getting. It’s time to let him know you have spoken to him about this for the LAST time, and that you are not going to have this discussion again. That he needs to stop pretending he understands, and finally UNDERSTAND, because if he doesn’t understand, now is the time for him to speak up and you will be more than happy to explain it to him IN GREAT DETAIL. But this is the last time.
He needs to stop making promises he won’t keep, and he needs to stop disrespecting you by making you feel your voice isn’t heard and that your words don’t mean a damn. If this has bothered you enough to talk to him about it over and over and over again then YOU need to change tactics. Words aren’t working. Why keep talking if NOBODY IS LISTENING?
Don’t tell him what, exactly the “or else” is for right now. But when the time comes, you need to SHOW him an “or else”. Otherwise, just talk to your shoe instead of him, yes it’s a waste of breath either way, but at least your shoes keep their mouth shut.
I just hate it when I say the same things over and over yet it seems like no one was paying attention when I talk! I have never given him a “or else” but I am willing to give it a shot. Lord knows nothing else has worked so far.
Love your blog!