Everything has been going great but you noticed your boyfriend has started to pull away. The first thing most women do is try and latch on as tight as they can, giving their man a hard time to escape. THIS NEVER WORKS LADIES. (Please read the previous sentence again for good measure.) When a man starts to pull away it is either because he is feeling smothered and wants some of his own space, he is dealing with personal issues, or he is on his way out of the relationship. Either way, tying him to a chair won’t work, and is a felony in most states. When a man is feeling smothered the absolute WORST thing you can do is smother him MORE. Give him the space that he wants. Try and act like YOU could use some space too. Instead of obsessing or worrying about what HE is doing with his time away from you, DO something fun with YOUR time away from him. Don’t let him think you are sitting home pouting because he isn’t around. Don’t try and make him feel guilty for wanting space either, that usually backfires and just pisses him off in the end and can even cause a fight. If your boyfriend is pulling away from physical acts like he isn’t holding your hand, don’t go and grab his ok? Act like you could care less if he shoves his hand up his ass much less holds yours. Try distancing yourself as well physically. Don’t act like an ice-princess all of a sudden, just don’t initiate things. Many times your man isn’t pulling away because of something you did. He could be having problems at work, he could be worried about a health issue, financial issue, anything. So, before you act like a needy clingy psycho, give him a little wiggle room and ride it out. Of course if he takes to long to snap out of it, ask him what his problem is. Tell him you noticed he has been distant for a while now and you would like to know if you should take it personally or if he is letting his personal issues affect your relationship. Just because he has been acting strange for 48 hours isn’t enough time to ring the alarm bells. Give it a reasonable amount of time. Don’t immediately react, or you could be letting your fears and insecurities make things worse. If he is really planning on leaving you, attaching yourself to his hip isn’t going to make him stay either. And what is pulling away anyway? Are you sure that is what he is doing? If his buddies decide to play softball on Saturday afternoons and you take this as a sure sign he is pulling away because Saturday is supposed to be YOUR day, you need to take it down a notch sister. It isn’t about YOU, it isn’t a SIGN, he isn’t pulling away, he just wants to play SOFTBALL. He isn’t hiring hookers on Saturday mornings mind you, he just wants to play softball with his buddies. BIG FAT WHOO. Let him. If you make a big deal about him doing things with his friends now and then that are innocent and just things he likes to do for fun you better watch out. The time you are trying to get with him and keep all to yourself might just leave you ALONE and all BY YOURSELF because he will kick you to the curb.
Give it a reasonable amount of time, if it was nothing to worry about, you will find out soon enough. If it is something for you to worry about, you will find that out soon enough as well. You need to see what his next move is, either returning back to normal or getting worse, THEN it is time for you to step in and question him. Don’t make it worse, or a mountain out of a molehill if you don’t have to.
