Comments on: What Does it Mean When Your Husband/Boyfriend Treats You Like Shit?

By: Libby m.

Libby m. — Sun, 22 Apr 2012 01:44:14 +0000

I been with my bf over 3 months now and i been treated like shit by him over and over i try to take it but i think he will change it takes time but i am happy the one minute and sad and crying on the phn next and i dont want to break up with him bcuz everybody saying how i need to break up with him over countless times bcuz i complained a lot about it and he said to me today his words were “i dont wanna talk to you today i wanna go to sleep” i was shocked about it bcuz i havent talked to him all day and now this i wanna break up with him but its hard

By: Pax

Pax — Fri, 20 Apr 2012 03:30:15 +0000

See my boyfrnd when he gets mad, he takes it out on me and he has made me cry, i was wondering if i should stay with him or not. Ive been in relationships like this before and it was alot worse than this. I love him to death and i dont want to break his heart. I take alot of BS from people i should not take… Please i need help

By: dianne

dianne — Sat, 14 Apr 2012 04:21:33 +0000

I have been in a relationship for a year and a half. 9 months ago, my son and I moved in with him and his son. He could not afford his mortgage and so I pay half. In the last 9 months, I have cooked, cleaned, done all the laundry, taken care of all the pets, and helped his son bring 4 F’s up to B’s&C’s in school. He works 50+ hours a week. A typical day in our house is as follows:
7pm, he gets home and I serve dinner
8pm, he leaves to go to the gym
sometime between 10-11pm, he comes home
Now, in addition to his workout routine, he goes to a local bar at least twice a week and doesn’t come home until 1-2 in the morning. I am not allowed in said bar anymore because he flirts with all the waitresses and they flirt back, and I called him on it. Add to that the random other things that come up, like tonight we had plans to go to dinner. 45 minutes before he was supposed to pick me up (6pm) he texts me to say we will have to reschedule because he “got roped into going to dinner with coworkers”. Then he screams at me for the dishes not being put away and something on the floor. It is now 12:19am and he still isn’t home. I, on the other hand, have scrubbed every surface of this house. I have bent over backwards to show him how much I care about him and our family and yet all I continue to get in return is left at home alone, my feelings disregarded. I’m pretty certain it’s time to move on.

By: I Want Closure

I Want Closure — Sat, 31 Mar 2012 19:13:33 +0000

You cannot be happy with him. So you either have to choose finances or happiness. Since you have a child he would have to pay child support so you would get money for that. Even though you cannot work as a teacher, get another job, and that, plus the child support should make you financially stable. It is up to you. It is your life, and you can either put your energy and effort into staying in a relationship that makes you miserable or try and go at it alone and find your happiness without him.

By: Theresa

Theresa — Sat, 31 Mar 2012 08:26:29 +0000

I want to leave my husband because he doesn’t respect me. We have both been violent towards each other in which I have a record now and he’s gotten away scott free. We have been married now for eight years and have a 5 year old son. I cant teach anymore because I can’t pass a fingerprint clearance so clearly he is now the bread winner. I feel ashamed and stuck in this marriage and I know he knows it because he tells me that I need him and that he doesn’t need me. I just want the pain to go away so I can heal and be happy with my son. I don’t know what to do and I am so scared, please help.

By: shante

shante — Wed, 28 Mar 2012 16:07:02 +0000

I been in a relationship now for 4 yrs to my fiance,when we first got together things was fine I felt like I found my Mr.wright,he hustle he cant get a job cuz he got laid off from his brick mason job,I cant get a job cause 2010 police came in my house found a gun drugs he wasnt der so they was like ur name on the least we got to take u to jail.so I didnt want to snitch on my dude so i took the charge i neva been i n trouble before,he got me out pay for my lawyer they gave me probation for a yr.so every sense I cant get a job in he hustle take care of every thing,when he get mad he hit me beats me up we fight make up he say he sorry he not gone do it no more,he very insecure when I want to hang out he picks a fight before I leave the house,just the other day he slap me in I pick up something in threw it at him i forgot what it was I just lost it,I tried to make it work so many times,he will buy me things so i can forget about it,he also acts like nothin ever happen,he just carry on like its a good day when im said i tried to talk it over with him bout how i feel.he always be like (yo i dont feel like talking bout that shit)he calls me bitches im a ho when all i do is sit in the house cuz he fight with me before i go any where.so i just stay in the house,Im so tire of him i need somebody advice i kno i need to leave him but how when he always sayin he will neva do it again.

By: Dawn L.

Dawn L. — Sat, 24 Mar 2012 16:59:07 +0000

Wow,all I can say is wow-me too. It’s amazing to me how very bad wives and husbands are being by thier “better half”. My husband
has been acting like a real jerk for 3 to 4 years now. I don’t get
it @ all. I know that I am far from being the perfect wife but I do
the best I can and give my son and husband my all. They give very little in return. Case in point-whenever my husband isn’t @ work
all he does is play Runescape-hours and hours. He’s constantly bitching and needing me to do things for him while his ass is attatched to the computer-turn the air conditioner down-I’m cold-
get me some kleenex-go get my coke out of the fridge-you get the idea. The other day I left my cellphone in the bedroom where he was
playing Runescape and he couldn’t be bothered to answer my phone
when it was our 17 year old son on the line-when I walked into the
room he said your phone was ringing-which wasn’t far from him a all.
That blew my mind. Today Hubbie was bitching where I placed a bottle of water in the fridge. My God-I always feel nervous around here.
It is no fun. My husband and son seem to think my only purpose in life is to care for them-feed them all day,wash all thier clothes and
have them neatly put up and on and on. Neither of them help around the house @ all. They just sit around while I carry the load. I don’t think things would have been much different if I wasn’t a stay
@ home mom. It seems to them that I don’t do enough or do things right. I know I have a nervous stomach when they are around and both
of them always seem to be around. I would love{and need} time away
from them and thier endless needs-quality and quantity time. When
they are @ work and school,I am always still doing for them. What a
mess I have made of my life. I’m going to figure out how to fix it.

By: I Want Closure

I Want Closure — Tue, 20 Mar 2012 03:54:33 +0000

You can leave, you are just choosing not to right now. You are not powerless, you have just been made to feel that way because of how badly you have been treated. It is a vicious cycle.

By: I Want Closure

I Want Closure — Mon, 19 Mar 2012 21:21:21 +0000

Sounds like a part of why you are in this is your fear of being alone. You have a problem if you would rather be treated like shit than be alone. Being alone is not a bad thing, and keeps you open for the right people to enter, instead of wasting time with the wrong people.

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Mon, 19 Mar 2012 17:09:48 +0000

well i read this article and i can’t stop feeling that it is absolutely right . I am so nice to him and i care about him i show him him love and unconditional support . I praise him every chances i have . I make him feel special and what i get in return ? disrespectfulness from him . He knows for some reason i cant leave him . I am open to new possibilities and I wanna find someone who can respect me and love and treat me well . I just don’t wanna face this alone and right now , cause I feel so lonely . God or whatever powerful almighty forces up there knows i wanna be loved and share my love with someone . I have many defects , but none of them are big enough to make people hate me of treat me like shit . I would give my entire life and my soul to feel the amazing feeling of someone loving you .I have had bad luck in finding the right person , and I’ve been trying to figure out why. I know maybe i think they are better than me . I am about to give up … the fact that i am here writing to complete strangers about my most deepest feelings say how desperate i am . and how unhappy i am in my currently dysfunctional relationship . how I feel knowing that he doesnt love me and I can’t even talk to him about this , cause he will get mad at me and just gonna ask me to curb the drama thing .