So you Want to Curse Him Out? Tell Him Off?
It Shows Him You Care Way Too Much!
I am sure you have very good reasons to call him every name in the book. I know you would like to march over there right now and give him a piece of your mind. I am sure you would like to write him a letter or an email telling him off for every rotten evil thing he has ever done to you. I know you want him to know EXACTLY what you think of him. I am sure you have very good reasons to want to hit him over the head with a shovel as well.
I don’t recommend any of the above. Let me explain why.
If you have to go to someone to be heard, rather than having them come to you, you have already lost the battle. You showed your hand. You showed that you care more about all of this than he does. So instead of coming to you ready to listen where immediately you have the upper hand, you go hunt him down like an emotional female? Do you really think that after you call and scream at him or show up at his place and act out that he is going to feel SORRY for what he did? No, he is now going to focus on what you did, and what you said.
Think he is going to regret doing what he did because he lost you? No. You are going to show him a side of yourself that he will think “Glad I am not going to deal with that psycho anymore!”. Good job. And, if you are already broken up and you do this after some time has passed, you look like a whack job who can’t get over him. Way to feed his ego!!
Is this what you want? Why do you feel the need to do these things? If it will make you feel better to write him a letter, go ahead and do it. Just don’t mail it. Truthfully, people that screw you over don’t really feel bad or guilty. They find a way to justify what they did, and with your help of spewing negativity, you make it easy on them. Why would you want to make them feel justified?
Think of your own experiences. Did you ever hurt someone and they never said anything to you about it? Doesn’t it still bother you/haunt you? Don’t you almost wish they called you every name in the book so you could feel better? Wouldn’t you then not think of it anymore? Most people would. Do you realize that when you yell, scream, send a nasty-gram etc., the person on the receiving end often thinks that now you are even? Do you want them to feel like that? So the question I put to you is, do you want to say hurtful things and get them off your chest, or do you want to haunt them for years to come? The latter leaves you in the place of power.
