In the business world, a partnership is two people working together, each taking on separate responsibilities, putting their strengths to good use. Each individual’s weakness can be overcome by the strength of the other partner.
Friction is created in a business partnership when one partner seems to be taking on all of the responsibilities while the other barely contributes. This is the same problem in a relationship partnership. In your relationship, are the duties divvied up equally, or has everything become your job?
All relationships are work, but if you’re working full-time and he is out on disability the relationship won’t run successfully. Take a look at your relationship and see the differences in your levels of contribution. Have you taken on too much? Are you afraid to delegate responsibility to him? Are you afraid he won’t do his job to your liking? You can’t do it all and you will build up resentments and feel like you are giving 100% while your “partner” is off playing golf.
At home, if your husband always takes out the trash and never needs reminding, after a while you never think “Hey, let me take out the trash” because you KNOW he will. So why do it?
Guess what happens in relationships? THE SAME THING. For instance, If you are always the one to smooth things over after an argument, why would he think to do it? Its become your job without you realizing it, asking for it, or getting paid for it. Look at all the things it takes to make your relationship “run”, and the work that must be put into it. Look at what your job entails vs. his. If the scales are tipped too far in your direction, it’s time to let him know that his job description has changed, and that he will be taking on more responsibility from now on.
Learn to let go as well, and allow him the chance to contribute more. If he doesn’t, fire his ass!
