Desperation is NEVER Pretty
“Why am I not in a relationship?” You ask yourself this question. Your girlfriends ask themselves this question. You ask your girlfriends this question and they ask you this question. Women all over the world ask themselves, and each other, this question.
The truth of the matter is you could be in a relationship tomorrow. Go down to the local 7/11 and find the guy who hangs around outside all day and asks people for money so he can buy himself some booze. He’ll be your boyfriend, just throw change at him on your way to work and pick him up on the way home. You will always know where he is and exactly what he is doing, right? See how easy it is?
Oh, but you’re thinking “I don’t want Mr. 7/11 as my boyfriend, I want a GOOD boyfriend, with a job, and a car, and other good qualities.” And that is my point right there. Getting into a relationship with a shlub is easy. Finding the right guy? Hard as hell.
Let’s do some math, shall we? There are like 89 gadrillion people in the world. Exactly how many of them do you think would be a great guy for you? Got your number? Ok, now how many of them live in your country? Now take that number and ask yourself how many live in your state? Now how many of those live in your town?
Don’t kid yourself, it’s not like there are thousands. The reason you are not in a relationship right now is because you don’t want to be in a relationship that sucks! You want a healthy, sane relationship with someone that loves you and treats you well, and everything else on your list.
It’s not that easy to find the right relationship for you. Sure, you can bitch that all your friends are in relationships, but do you want any of their men? No. So stop feeling like you are the only one not in a relationship, because the truth of the matter is no relationship is better than a bad one.
At least you are available for Mr. Right, while they are busy looking through their couch cushions for loose change for Mr. 7/11, and will miss him entirely. We need to stop thinking that there is something wrong with ourselves for not finding the “one”. We need to understand that yes, there are people who are in great relationships, but for the most part, the people that are currently in relationships right now are not in relationships that will last.
Don’t feel like you need to be in something this second, it is that desperation that causes us to settle out of fear that we will never find what we want. So we take what we get…instead of waiting for what we want. Good things do come to those that wait, so be a little more patient, there is no expiration date on finding the right one.
I would rather be alone than with someone that is an asshole
our sentiments exactly!