The fairytales we read in our childhood end when the courtship ends and marriage or a serious relationship begins. Isn’t that quite often when the fairytale ends in real life as well? We cannot expect to never have a fight or win every argument.
How a couple fights is important though. Does it escalate into name calling, hitting below the belt verbally, or screaming and yelling? Do things get broken or does the fight become physical in any way?
A couple has to learn how to handle their differences because their will be times when you don’t see eye to eye. It’s fine to disagree and long as it doesn’t become the war of the roses for every little thing. A quick end to a fight is much better than dragging things out for days and weeks.
Many couples choose a certain type of amnesia and both act as if they have forgotten the whole thing. The problem with “selective amnesia” is one, if not both, never REALLY forget the incident and grudges and resentment can build up over time, destroying the foundation of the relationship and causing irreparable damage in some cases.
Look at your relationship and how you and your partner handle fights, when they occur, and if they are the same unresolved issues coming up time and time again. Is one person always winning every argument/difference of opinion? That person may think they are winning, but they will find themselves losing the relationship one way or another.
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