Peter Pan and Cinderella are both very popular fairytales whose themes have been turned into television shows, movies, and integrated into our culture. The problem is that too many people believe that fairytales can come true. They can come true, but so can the worst of nightmares.
Pretty Woman, the movie starring Julia Roberts and Richard Gere was a blockbuster. The storyline was so unbelievable yet it is many peoples favorite movie. Women seem to buy into the idea that however messed up your situation is, some man can come along, see the real you and fall in love with you beyond all sense of reason, and take you away to a life of luxury and love. The endings of these fairytales end with the phrase “And they lived happily ever after”.
Really? On what planet did they perform this miracle? Oh, that’s right, this is a fairytale, one not to be BELIEVED. But yet everyone does. Why? Men may want to stay forever young, and not have to grow up despite the responsibilities of growing older (or their wives or girlfriends) may require.
Women want to meet Prince Charming despite the fact that there are very few Prince Charmings available. We don’t live in a magical enchanted kingdom, we live here on earth. We need to start the story at “and they lived happilly ever after” not end it there.
Almost all new relationships have a “magical” feeling to them when they are new… just like in the stories, but the stories STOP before reality sets in. We are so disappointed when the “magic” leaves our relationship because the stories lead us to believe that the magical, perfect, wonderful times are a constant state of the relationship. It is an almost impossible goal for most of us to achieve with our relationships. They cannot be perfect and a state of bliss all the time. We feel let down when the real world and its problems invade our happy kingdom.
Even the best of relationships have issues, yet when ours do we feel like it’s “ruined” because it is no longer perfect. We need to understand that a perfect relationship is one that survives and thrives after the bad times. It is the bad times that prove our commitment, love, and loyalty. Those are the tests that strengthen our relationships. You know who your real friends are when you are going through a bad time. The same goes with your relationships. You know how strong your relationship is when you are weak, how loved you are when you feel the worst about yourself, and the loyalty of that person when it is tested.
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