Once an Asshole…Always an Asshole
An Asshole at the Beginning is a Bigger Asshole at the End
A friend of mine recently met a guy. They had a wonderful dinner, drinks and conversation. There was chemistry, and she was on cloud nine, full of hope that maybe this was the start of something. Well, so far he has told her 3 times, while they were on the phone, that he would call her right back. Right back took approximately 5 days.
He talked about seeing her soon and making arrangements but then nothing came of it, and he never addressed it again as if he had amnesia. She re-arranged her schedule to accommodate him, and the plans disappeared. Please tell me why she is entertaining the idea of seeing him again, much less speaking to him again?
What does he have to do at the beginning for you to dump his ass and thank God you dodged a bullet? I asked her that question and she is under the impression that if he falls for her he won’t do this so he could be a great guy.
I told her to start using the local prison pen pal dating service. She has as much chance of a convict reforming as this douche. I kept telling her the universe is on her side here, doing her the favor of letting her see his true colors before she gets emotionally vested, yet she is clearly avoiding the major warning signals. She and I argued back and forth about whether there was a chance for this to work for them in the long run. She thinks he will change, and I told her that yeah, he will change, into a much bigger asshole than he is now.
You don’t need a crystal ball to see which one of us is going to be right in the future, do you? So why even BOTHER with this guy? Why give it the chance to get worse? Things usually go from bad to worse, don’t they?
At the beginning of a relationship we are getting to know the person, to decide if this is someone is right for us, and to see if we are a good match. If one of your pet peeves is tardiness, why are you giving the perpetually late guy a shot? If one of your top needs in a relationship is to spend a lot of time with the man, they why are you giving the workaholic the time of day?
Stop wasting your time trying to fit a round peg into a square hole. Find a guy that fits the requirements you are looking. Once an asshole… always an asshole..it just depends on the diameter.
