Okay so the guy seems to be interested in you. He stares, is extra friendly, helpful, and you feel the spark between the two of you. Others have noticed it as well. The problem is that he has not acted on it! You have waited patiently, have enjoyed the time you spend with him, but you keep asking yourself “What is he waiting for?”. The question you ask yourself, and your friends, is should you do something about it?
Before you decide to do that, maybe you should think about all the reasons, other than shyness or being afraid, that could be the real reason he is not asking you out.
1) He is attracted to you and likes you as a fellow human being. But that is it. He does not want any more than that, and that is why he is not pursing more than that with you. People can find others attractive but not want to do anything about it, the like the flirtation and want to keep it at that.
2) You work together and he is against work relationships. If he really feels that way, and you try and push the envelope, changing his mind (and keeping it changed) could prove quite the challenge. It could be best to let him convince himself, not you. Many times when someone has their mind changed by someone else, they changed their mind back to their original opinion. And really, should you have to convince someone to go out with you?
3) He already has someone in his life that you (and perhaps others) don’t know about. So, since he is already involved (either in a good relationship or bad) he is simply behaving himself.
4) He doesn’t want a serious involvement, or anything that could lead to a serious involvement. He just wants to play the field, no strings attached, and does not think you are that kind of woman.
5) He has just gotten out of a crappy relationship and is not ready for a new one just yet.
These are just a few of the many reasons why a guy who likes you has not taken it further. Unless you know for a fact that it is because he is afraid or too shy, your best course of action could be to take no action all all.
You can drop some subtle hints, flirt back, and see if he takes the bait. If he does not, there could be a really good reason as to why nothing is developing between the two of you, and pushing the envelope could get you the opposite of what you hoped for.
Patience is the hardest thing though. I have none lol
Just because there’s a spark for you doesn’t mean there’s one for HIM. He may genuinely enjoy your company, but isn’t interested in pursuing it into something more. It’s a hard pill to swallow, but, it’s true. If you’re in this situation, you have to step outside yourself a bit and see if you’re allowing your like for him cloud your vision of how he really feels about you.
I don’t have any either lol