Comments on: Should You Give Someone Closure?

By: I Want Closure

I Want Closure — Sun, 25 Sep 2011 05:00:17 +0000

We think it is great that he was that open with you and trusting and comfortable with you to share that story. A lot of guys would hide it. You absolutely did the right thing by telling him to go and find that closure, if he feels he needs it.

By: N

Tue, 06 Sep 2011 20:22:19 +0000

Very interesting. My boyfriend’s last girlfriend essentially left without saying a word. Simply stopped talking to him. He didn’t realize they weren’t together for months! This is because whenever the two of them would fight they would just not communicate for a week or two. I suggested he go look for closure since anything that he sees that reminds him of her starts bugging him (when we pass by where she lives, for example). I hope I did the right thing, and at the very least he told me.

By: I Want Closure

I Want Closure — Tue, 23 Aug 2011 21:43:05 +0000

You are so right!! he IS a coward – he was then and I bet he still is. He did have a great relaitonship with you, but felt he could not honor it the way it needed to be honored and ran away – like a coward. We find this ridiculous and inexcusable. There are proper ways to end a relationship and just walking away and blanking someone is the RUDEST thing you can do. Period. Esp someone you have been in an 8-year relationship with. WOW. We are sorry this guy messed with you. It certainly would have been lot kinder for him to give you the respect you needed and ended the relationship LIKE A MAN – instead of a SPINLES WEASEL

By: B

Tue, 09 Aug 2011 19:33:30 +0000

I can see some valid points to this but I was in an 8 year relationship with a guy (we met in high school) and one day, he called and ended it. Didn’t tell me why NOTHING. I found out later that he dove headfirst into another relationship but would still call my best friend (they were friends too) and told her “She’s the one for me. I know I’ll end up with her eventually” yet NEVER called me. He just cut me out. I asked for closure (because I needed it) and he never called me back. Obviously, I didn’t try anymore because I wanted to keep my dignity and not look pathetic. It’s been 2 years and I’m still wounded over everything that happened. I’m slowly moving on, but it would have been a hell of a lot easier if we had talked about it. About why it didn’t work. When somebody ends an 8 year relationship and doesn’t even deal with it, makes me know that he’s a coward who just sticks his head in the sand. It made me realize that not giving me closure, was a way of giving our relationship ZERO honor. You need to respect the person you were with so they can move on with their lives.

By: john

john — Sun, 23 Jan 2011 00:09:17 +0000

Very well said.